Thursday, February 18, 2010

Baby it's not cold outside...

So I woke up at the appropriate 5:30 time this morning and realized that I may not have class. SNOOZE! Now it's 9:30 and I'm getting ready to jump in the shower to get to class by 11:30. I'll probably be late, LOL.. Wouldn't surprise me.

I want to wish LINDSEY a WONDERFUL Happy Belated Birthday!!!!! I hope your day with family went well!! Missed you at group last night.

We had a couple come in last night and talk for group. They were in their mid-20s it looked like and had been married for about 3 years. Still newlyweds if you ask me, but I think my opinion is biased. However! They have the marriage that follows a lot of the guidelines that I am wanting for my next one. Church together, volunteer together, Bible study together, pray together... More and more I am assured not to lower my standards where my future relationship is concerned. Even last night, one of the first things that they spoke of was standards. They asked this question, "What values are important to you?" One of my answers was "volunteerism". I am active in volunteering at my church, and I want to be with someone who loves to give himself to others. They also asked, "What do you want your future relationship to look like?" -- Meaning, how do you want things to function? Do you want to be actively involved with your spouse? Do you want to share housework? Do you want to stay home and have him work? Well, having all these wishes, one needs to embrace them and not settle for less.

Like I said, I have been married before so I have experiences that basically all the other people in my Lifegroup don't have. I know what NOT to do. I am the perfect example of what NOT to do (thankfully most of these people are in their 20s and 30s so they won't make the mistake that I made). However, on the positive side, as time has passed and I have tallied up these relationship experiences and lessons, I have concocted quite the "wish list"of my future spouse. Sometimes I want to settle for less because, yes, I get lonely. I get bored. I just want someone to run around with. But I know myself and I know my feelings and I know that I fall in love too easily. The next person I fall in love with, I want it to be HIM. The guy, you know? I have 100% faith in God that he already has this guy picked out for me. That it's going to be perfect beyond anything I could ever imagine. There isn't going to be any need for me to settle for less, or to compromise my personal or Spiritual values to be with someone. It's going to be the easiest thing I've ever done.

Over the last year, I've been reading a book called When God Writes Your Love Story, about giving God the control to write the story of your love- and dating-life. It's a great book and has really opened up new thoughts to me. Like keeping yourself pure for your future husband. Looking at yourself every moment of the day and thinking, "Is this really going to benefit my future relationship?" Also, praying for him, even though you don't know him. A girl in my Lifegroup even talked about writing letters to him, all the while not knowing who he is going to be or when you are going to meet him. I don't know if I'll go as far as that, but I like the principle of treating him like he's definitely someone who is going to be someday, without a doubt.

Well I have satisfied the Blogging Bug. I have 45 minutes to get ready for class :-)

1 comment:

  1. Yay, thanks for the b-day shoutout! :) Great post... love your strong faith and knowing that you don't have to settle for less than God's best!!